Hello lovely, I’m so glad you are here!
Come and find out more about me, my approach and methodology.
I am PASSIONATE about relationships.
I am an intimacy & relationship guide. I hold sacred space for Women’s Circles and Conscious Connection Circles. And I run a variety of somatic and connection-based workshops.
I am a mother, a lover, a nature devotee and a barefoot goddess.
I am fascinated by relationships, spirituality, nature, somatic healing, human psychology and sociology. I am something of a (self-confessed) growth-junkie and I love to learn more deeply about myself and others.
I have been working in the field of relationships and trauma as a Coach, Facilitator and Trainer for 6 years, and as a Somatic Healer for many years before that. As a human I have had my own complex relationship experiences and know first hand how relationships can be affected by fear, shame, mistrust and unhealthy communication. My own healing journey has been long and as with us all is ongoing: As a practitioner I am not above the journey of being human—I am deeply in it!
It has been the guides, coaches, teachers and therapists along the way that have brought me to this space I feel lucky to inhabit today.
And I do feel so lucky!
I believe that we are all on healing journeys; trying to be more beautiful, pleasure filled, intentional versions of our selves. As a guide and facilitator I am passionate about offering support - we don’t need to do it alone.
I live this one life with intention and adventure.
I am deeply connected to the Earth and endlessly curious. I love deep conversations and learning deeply about the people I meet. I love seeing people and holding them in exquisite reverence.
I am passionate about my own relationships!
I have beautiful relationships with myself, partners, children, friends and community. As a neurodiverse, queer, ethically non-monogamous, parenting, soulpreneur (say that three times!), I am devoted to healthy connecting and dedicate myself to cultivating nourishing relationships. I can tell you first hand how INCREDIBLE this work is and the deep joy it can bring.
I’m passionate about your relationships!
Maybe you are looking for friendship and community; maybe the relationships of your dreams; or a deeper, more loving relationship with yourself… I am delighted you are here. Take a look around and get in touch.
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Women’s Circles
Healing in Connection & Community, a Sister Circle for women to come home to.
Mixed Circles
Conscious-Connection Circle for anyone of any gender/sexual orientation who wants to connect deeply to themselves and others, finding healing & connection in community.
The Method
All of my work (and how I live my life) is founded on the principle of three pillars of connection to be fostered, nourished and developed:
Connection to Our Self
Connection to Others
Connection to The Earth
MY APPROACH IS GENTLE, CONNECTED AND ROOTED IN SCIENCE.
In my work as a Trauma-Informed Coach and Trauma-Informed Trainer I taught many practices and tools that help people who have experienced trauma to overcome the barriers they face and journey towards inner peace. I developed practices, mentorship programmes and support interventions for people overcoming interpersonal trauma from recent and non-recent abuse.
In my work I began to see patterns - that it is the relationships NOW that heal the wounds of the past. And if we can make these intentional, positive and supportive then we flourish. I saw this pattern weave through my own life too. Having experienced some very challenging relationships due to my own childhood trauma, I embarked upon a long journey of healing. And it was romantic relationships, friendships, my children and my relationships with therapists and coaches that offered deep and lasting healing.
IT MADE SENSE FOR ME TO DEEP DIVE INTO RELATIONSHIPS, AND DEEP DIVE I DID!
I trained with the incredible Somatica ® Institute in California to become a practitioner in the field of intimacy, relationships and sex. Using an exciting, tranformational experiential and somatic approach I work with individuals, with couples, and with groups in workshops.
I also found Circles in my own journey, and realising the transformational magic of being in Circle first-hand I undertook extensive training with Sacred Sister to become an informed, safe and intentional Circle Facilitator.
As a Sacred Guide, facilitator and Space Creator I take my own personal development and support very seriously - I practice what I preach! We need love and space and time to flourish. In the capacity of an Intimacy & Relationship Guide and Circle Facilitator, I am NOT working as a licensed psychotherapist and I will be happy to signpost you should we agree that a different level of support is required. I receive professional supervision to ensure that the best level of support is offered to my clients.
I ACTIVELY CREATE SAFER SPACES
At the heart of all of my work lies the principles of inclusitivity and diversity:
I truly believe that everyone, regardless of gender, race, identity, sexuality, or lived experience deserves support and to have spaces created that promote safety, acceptance and understanding.
I create containers with clear consent and agreements.
I recognise the existence of privelege and I am commited to my own continued development of understanding and awareness.
I commit to centering the voices of BIPOC, LGBTQ+ individuals, folk who are differently-abled, survivors of trauma and other marginalised groups.
I am passionate that these principles are not merely ideals but calls to action.
I welcome your questions if you would like to know more about these principles in action, how I can support you to feel safer in my 1:1 or group containers, or to find out about my sliding scale fees to support accessibility.
What do Somatic and Experiential Mean?
Somatic means 'of the body'.
We are taught in our culture to be in our head and that the rational approach is superior. In addition, we may experience anxiety or shame in relation to our body, or have experienced trauma. This can lead to a disconnect from our body, which all of the time is responding to our surroundings and offering insight that we may not listen to or heed. Unchecked, this can numb or dampen the truly delicious sensations available to us and block our ability to sink easily into our bodies.
In 1:1 sessions we use breathwork and attunement to awaken our bodies and to experience the plethora of messages and sensations available to us. I help you learn to listen to the messaging your body offers - yes, no, too fast, too slow, too rough, too soft, too little, too much... and, once alive to these messages, to communicate this to another.
Relationships (of every kind) and intimacy thrive when we are alive to our bodies, and these practices can change the way you experience pleasure AND how you experience the world.
Experiential is more than talk therapy alone.
Trained with the Somatica Institute in California my work is much more than traditional talk therapy. In sessions, we create a relationship laboratory - that is to say, we have a practitioner/client(s) relationship in which we explore together and truly experience the barriers, boundaries and erotic energy of you.
This relationship does of course have boundaries - mine and yours - but offers a space where we can work directly with any issues that you have which can arise during session, offering a rich opportunity to manage these issues differently and create meaningful change.
WE AFFECT CHANGE BY LEARNING TO DO THINGS A DIFFERENT WAY.
Talking is very much included and we will safely explore the issues to have a full picture to work with. So often, the challenges we face in the now are related to past hurts - ways we have tried to protect ourselves in relationship - or cultural pressures - ways we have shut our genuine self down in order to belong. Exploring those that are particular to you, and learning new ways, is empowering and offers opportunity to find alternatives that work for you.
Note, I am a trauma informed practitioner and clear that my offer is intimacy & relationship journeying and not traditional therapy. To discuss this, boundaries and any questions you may have, please book a free exploratory call where I can answer any queries.
These approaches are Life Changing... And fun!
Incredible relationships, intimacy and sex are a combination of knowing yourself, connecting to others and specific skill sets you can learn and develop. Skills I can teach you!
This approach is transformational. Research and development in neurobiology show us that we can learn new ways of being through exploration and conscious repetition of an alternative. Neuroplasticity means that the wiring of our brains can quite literally be altered to accomodate new patterns and experiences. In the same way that repetitive practice of scales on a piano with your hands will enable you to move from discomfort and awkwardness to fluidity and grace, so too will practicing connection, harnessing your erotic energy and flow, and relationship skills and techniques. You are not alone in this, this is not an approach where we conceptualise and send you off on your way - we can use the space to perfect and hone technique and skill.
And, importantly, it can be deliciously fun! Together we create a space where it is okay to be all of you - no shame, no barriers - and we can emote: play/laugh/cry/yell, the whole spectrum is welcome and accepted.
YOU are accepted and welcome as you are.